Ever hit on a girl you were kinda on the fence about and find her just falling into your bed? Why is that?
It’s because the less you care, the more at ease you are and the better you are at working your game. Nothing attracts women like giving off a relaxed, confident vibe–one that implies that you have other options.
It’s just basic psychology: If something seems like a sure thing, it’s not nearly as appealing, now is it? But if you’re worried something you want might get away, you’ll be a lot more eager to grab onto it while you can.
This is precisely why the more you want a woman, the harder it is to avoid making attraction mistakes with her. If you’re not careful, suddenly you’ll find yourself making these “try too hard” mistakes.
1. Being too agreeable: Most women aren’t looking for an argument, but they won’t respect you kissing their asses either. If you find yourself quickly backtracking out of a statement that she disagrees with, you’re trying way too hard and hurting your chances. Stand your ground on what you think. If she gets angry, just laugh and tell her you like that she’s feisty. Don’t give in. Tell her you respect her difference of opinion and MOVE ON.
2. Being overly generous with your money, time and attention: Most guys eventually learn that giving women pricey gifts is a lousy way to get them into bed. They struggle more with the time and attention thing. Even if you’re crazy for a girl, you MUST make her earn your time and attention. Don’t give her too much at first or she’ll think she’s too good for you.
3. Listening to all her problems: Nothing puts you in the friend zone quicker than being the guy who listens to all her problems. Don’t ever think being a sympathetic ear and/or trying to fix things for will earn you anything more than a kick in the nuts. If she starts into that stuff, shut it down. You’re not her girlfriend or her shrink.
One thing I’ve learned over the years–it’s almost impossible to attract a woman if she doesn’t see you as at least an equal. Making these three mistakes puts you in a subservient position. It may be tempting in the short run to kiss her ass, but it rarely gets you where you want to be.
Stay strong. The more crazy you are for her the more important it is not to fall into these traps.